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It Didn't Start with You
- 256 pages · about 4 hours
- First published 2016
- 10 editions
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1 About this book
It Didn't Start with You is a 2016 self-help book by Mark Wolynn about inherited family trauma. Its premise is that fears, anxieties and patterns a person cannot explain from their own life may echo painful events in the lives of parents or grandparents, even events that were never spoken about. The first part presents this idea and the research the author draws on. The second sets out his own method, which he calls the core language approach: noticing the words a person uses about their deepest fears, tracing them to events in the family's history, and then working toward a sense of reconnection. Later chapters apply the method to separation, relationships and success.
- Personal growth
- Psychology
- Mental health
- Self-help
- Psychic trauma
- Memory
- Psychotherapy
2 What to expect
A self-help book on the idea that unexplained fears and patterns can be inherited from traumas in earlier generations of a family. It moves from the author's account of the research to his own step-by-step method, which asks you to map your family history and study the language you use about your fears. The science of inherited trauma is young and debated, and the book offers a personal method, not a substitute for therapy.
Good for readers who want: self-improvement, psychology, and mental health.
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